Look who's listening to you!
Parenting Tips from Parents As Teachers National Center

    Sometimes as parents we wonder if our children ever listen to us. How much can a baby really hear and understand? How can a toddler be listening when she is so engrossed in play? Does a preschooler listen even if he talks a mile a minute? Rest assured your child, no matter what her age, is listening intently to what you say and to what is going on around her. Furthermore, listening is a first step on the path to learning to read.

     Babies listen from birth
     Hearing develops in pregnancy about the fifth month. After birth, the brain is able to perceive and process all the sounds of speech, even those not contained in the child’s native language. The brain begins to map the sounds of speech as the baby hears adults talking to him. These are the sounds that the child will need to know in order to learn to read.
     Parents help their baby listen when they speak in parentese, using a voice that is higher in pitch, slower and more drawn out, and has greater contrasts in inflection. This way of speaking presents speech sounds in exactly the way babies need to be able to listen and process them. It’s not baby talk. Your baby shows she is listening to you by turning to the sound of your voice, smiling and laughing, and moving her arms and legs in excitement.
     Toddlers listen on the go
     By the end of the first year of life, babies have had lots of experience hearing sounds in their daily lives, and they are beginning to understand that certain sounds represent particular things. This is receptive language. The fact that toddlers are curious and into everything exposes them to many different words and sounds. Toddlers listen, they just do it standing up! As they grow closer to speaking words themselves, they seek lots of language stimulation. Your little one may be glued to your side, as he wants to look in your face, watch your mouth, and hear your words. Listening is very important to language and literacy development in the toddler years, even though it occurs on the move.
     Preschoolers are all ears
     Most preschoolers are in love with talking. Children this age listen more for meaning and less for the sounds of speech. If your child doesn’t say some sounds clearly, repeat the word using the correct pronunciation rather than pointing out the mistake. Also, help your child learn to slow down and listen by getting her attention and giving her your attention when she is trying to tell you something.
     Preschoolers are learning to listen to a story and to retell a story or answer questions about it, important skills that prepare the child for learning to read in the next few years. Helping your child to pay attention to keep parts of a story can enhance listening skills. You might provide a clue before a reading, such as “Let’s see what the boy will buy at the store.” Another strategy is to ask your child to make a prediction, such as “Who do you think Baby Bear will find in his bed?”
     Listen up! Here are some things you can do to help your child listen:

• Be sure you have your child’s attention.

• Make eye-contact down on her level.

• Look out for ear infections and treat them promptly.

• Pronounce words the way adults do so your child will know what is correct.

• Speak a little slower.

• Use funny voices when reading a story to interest your child.

• Ask your child to make a prediction about a story.

• Be a good listener to model for your child.

Parenting Challenging Children: Tips, Tricks & Traps

Thursday, March 12 ... 6:30 to 8:30 PM
Columbia Public Library Friends Room

David Schramm, PhD, CFLE
Assistant Professor Dept of Human Development & Family Studies,
University of Missouri, State Extension Specialist
Pre-registration required. Call the library,  817-7160, beginning Tuesday, March 3rd.

     Parenting is full of many specific challenges that are unique to your child and your relationship. However, it is possible to turn these challenges into family growth. Often, when we think of the child as the problem, there are limited solutions. As parents, there are many things we can do to change how WE think and behave that can invite positive behavior from our children. Come learn some key principles to help you through the ups and down of dealing with specific parenting challenges.
     Co-sponsored by the Parent Education Committee, Daniel Boone Regional Library and Columbia Public Schools Parents As Teachers program. This workshop is for parents only. No child care is provided. Thank you.